Miss J. The Thrive Programme helped me to overcome my Emetophobia – The Fear of Being Sick
I first contacted Paul as I suffered from a number of things – which were really affecting my life. Low self esteem, social anxiety, no confidence, panic attacks but most of all emetophobia.
All of the above effected my life in a big way. I wouldn’t eat out unless completely unavoidable, I wouldn’t travel if I wasn’t the driver, I wouldn’t go out on my own or with friends except for lunch break. I wouldn’t eat new food, I would only trust 2 people to cook for me (my mom and my partners mom) I didn’t go on holiday, I wouldn’t speak in front/to people I didn’t know well face to face. I would panic to the point where we would nearly have to call an ambulance if I felt poorly, I wouldn’t stay in the house on my own, be around anyone with a bug or who had been in contact with someone who had been poorly and as for babies – that was a no go!… The list could go on forever.
Paul suggested a course in Changing Limiting Beliefs. (Now called the Thrive Programme) With Paul and at home, I worked through my course book completing all exercises and talking through my issues at weekly sessions.
Since I have completed the course – now 8 weeks ago I have improved a lot. I have completed 2 presentations with work one where my boss drove me to Wycombe and one in my office. Both in front of around 15 people. I didn’t get embarrassed or panic when I felt sick with nerves. I have been to Leeds for a supplier meeting. I have been with my Nan through her fight with cancer – even through the sickness!
I have sat with my sister during her morning sickness and my friends children when they had the dreaded winter sickness bug! I went to a charity comedy night in a packed pub been to the cinema with my partner and Christmas shopping to Merry Hill 3 times (once on my own!). Not once panicking that I couldn’t see the door. I have even been promoted at work and now run a small team. I let my partner cook tea and have even started to eat a wider variety of food. I stay on my own at home when my partner does the night shift and I haven’t had a panic attack in over 3 months.
I have dealt with my own sickness – not being sick but feeling sick. I have come to learn that my emetophobia is an obsession and by learning new ways of thinking I can overcome it. I am still not keen on the thought of being sick but I no longer go into complete melt down. I get my hot water bottle, put the TV on and distract myself. We have even been talking about having children in the new year!
I never thought I would of got this far and if it had not been for the help and support I got from both family, friends and Paul I don’t think I would be where I am now.
Paul makes talking through your problems easy. He does not judge or call you stupid, he listens and helps you manage your thoughts/beliefs/fears better.
The course was definitely a good choice for me.
I still have things to change and develop and I still work from my book at home but I am getting there – my life has definitely improved for the better.